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I know it sounds completely opposite to what you expect would work for getting your ex back, but the truth is severing all contact with your ex for about a month can really help you get him back when that month is over. There are numerous reasons why this is so, and here are just a couple.

1) Being in each others’ faces right after a breakup is bound to cause some friction. When emotions are flaring up and everything is out of control, it’s easy to say the wrong things and make it much harder to recover from this. Cutting off contact with your ex gives you time to cool down, and serves as a kind of damage control to keep you from accidentally making things worse.

Once the month has finished and everyone’s heads are cooler and more calm, working on the relationship can begin anew. After the break, everyone will be in a better frame of mind, allowing for a much easier time of constructive pursuit of fixing the problems between you.

2) Even if you two are on good terms still, being together after the breakup has other effects that can make it harder to get him back. Think about it, how much will your ex want you back in his life if he feels you never left his life? That’s how it can end up feeling if you’re still together after you separate.

A couple quotes for you: “absence makes the heart grow fonder” and “you don’t know what you have until it’s gone.” Being so close to one another for so long makes it harder to notice the great things about being together. When you two are forced to be apart, your ex actually gets the opportunity to miss you…and often that ends up making the situation sink in a lot deeper, and makes mutual agreement to get back together a lot easier.

3) When everything’s going to pieces, and your ex is right in front of you all the time, it can be hard to make the right decisions. Flying by the seat of your pants reacting instead of just acting, you’ll find it a lot tougher to work this out. What you need is some time and space alone to develop a plan of action.

It’s not easy to predict what your best course of action is for getting back your ex. People in this situation behave differently than you’d naturally assume, so don’t trust yor first impulses when dealing with your ex. You need a real plan based on how things really work, and without it you’ll be sailing against the wind, with a blindfold on.

Any person fresh out of a breakup with the intention to get her ex back should take this advice seriously. You’ve seen a few of the reasons, so I’m sure you understand the benefits of this separation…actually doing it can be hard. It’s tough to be apart from the person you care for, but in some ways that’s what you’re banking on. Just rest assured that this will help, and when you get through it you’ll find it much easier to find happiness again with your ex. I wish you the best of luck.